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Dear
StarIQ.Advisor:
My
son was born November 23, 1994 at 10:31 pm PST, in La Jolla, California.
He’s a great kid who has been interested in sports throughout his
life. He is very giving, and a great big brother. He’s a double
Leo with Sagittarius influences. I can see all of this in the chart
and I am aware of his many good qualities, but I need help finding
the key to help him with personal control.
Cyber Nana
Dear Cyber Nana:
I seldom characterize Sagittarians as contrary. Indeed, I think
of Sagittarians as the peacemakers of the zodiac. Ruled by Jupiter,
Sagittarians enjoy diversity, search for synthesis and enthusiastically
embrace a variety of viewpoints. Of course, the shadow of this expansive
quest can often be a myopic insistence on one point of view—and
one view only.
But I think the "problems" you are describing are deeper than his
Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon and Leo Ascendant. Triple fire is energetic.
But his birth chart also contains a Sun, Pluto, Jupiter conjunction,
with Pluto and Jupiter in Scorpio. This combination of planets is
a powerful bundle of energy and hard to handle at any age.
A
Sun-Pluto conjunction puts the emphasis on personal power. From
a transformational point of view, this conjunction signifies the
need to test the edges of control, inside and out. Jupiter, while
a gregarious and optimistic force, tends toward excess. Combine
Jupiter's expansive influence with the power themes of a Sun-Pluto
conjunction, and you've got a charismatic personality who is always
going to challenge the limits. You're right. He needs outlets. Sports
are one solution. But he also needs creative expression as a way
of getting to know himself. Don't leave out artistic pursuits as
a channel for all that fire.
What's
more, his entire bundle of the Sun, Pluto, Jupiter and Mercury is
in his Fourth House. Home and home
life are extremely important to this young boy. He is hypersensitive
to the changing moods of his family. Pluto in the Fourth House highlights
issues of safety and security. He may be worrying about what's going
on at home and unable to articulate his anxiety. Indeed, when he
goes to "extremes" he may be unconsciously acting out the undercurrents
at home.
Significantly,
he also has Mars in Leo on his Ascendant. And that Mars squares
his Mercury, Jupiter, Pluto and Sun. Mars rules the will. It is
the arms and legs of the ego, eager and able to help us separate
and actualize our individuality. Mars likes being in Leo, relishing
in the drama and bigness of this dynamic sign. Mars in Leo in the
first house spells natural leadership ability—a quality you already
recognize.
This
very same Mars is his strong suit. Rather than collapse from
insecurity, this young boy instinctually chooses to be strong. He's
"doing his own thing" as a way of coping. Underneath the tendency
toward "extremes" lies a deeper context. By asserting himself, he
is taking care of energy he cannot contain. He may be feeling vulnerable.
Unsure of himself. Unseen by his parents. The need for control is
often an unconscious response to feeling unprotected. Taking charge
can be his way of organizing what is "out of control." Because children
model the behavior of their parents, you might look to see who he
is trying to emulate.
Your
best bet is working with him to build a strong sense of himself
from the inside out. If he starts being bossy or bullying others,
rather than shame him, ask him what he's afraid of. Teach him to
get in touch with his feelings, now. He's a powerful little boy
who will grow up to be a powerful man. Give him permission to be
intense. Guide him toward his gifts and talents. If he develops
a wholesome attitude toward his own power, he will naturally empower
others. You can probably already see his generosity of spirit in
his role as a big brother. Just keep in mind, he is treating his
younger sibling the way he, too, wants to be cared for.
Be
well,
Ralfee
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