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Dear Ralfee,
I would like advice regarding my prospects in the area of love and relationship
with a guy born April 21, 1958, in the morning, in Munich, Germany.
My birthday is May 21, 1955, at 3:20 am, in Teaneck,
New Jersey.
Sincerely,
Wondering
Dear
Wondering,
I
always feel cautious comparing two charts, especially at the beginning
of a relationship. Even a mild infatuation opens the heart and makes
expectations run high. We want an astrologer to confirm our feelings
and bolster our hopes. And being a sentimental slut myself, the
first thing I look for between two charts is the romantic glue.
That's the fun part—finding the planetary contacts that speak to
joyful, passionate and heartfelt connection.
But
also being a professional, I realize how important it is to shed
light on the shadows. No relationship is without its difficulties,
and a careful comparison of two charts always reveals the potential
challenges. And that's why I hesitate. When we're in the first blush
of romance, hardly anyone wants to hear about the problems.
Of
course, from a transformational point of view, the gifts you share with
one another can be put to good use working on the challenges. But not
everyone wants to do the personal work it takes to make any relationship
grow and prosper. What's more, some of us want our relationships to
be smooth as silk. Others want their union to be a storm at sea, with
waves of intensity continually moving them into deeper and deeper waters.
So
I can't really tell you what your prospects are with this man. All
I can do is try to illuminate how you spark each other.
That's
my astro-disclaimer.
Having
said all that, you and this man share many, many contacts between your
charts. Some of this planetary connective tissue is strong and sweet.
And some of the shared energy touches sensitive issues for both
of you.
Because
we don't have your boyfriend's exact time of birth, it's hard to be accurate
about his Moon—and the Moon is essential for this type of comparison.
So what follows is a general picture, with significant highlights.
Your
Venus is conjunct your boyfriend's Sun. This is a wonderful touchstone. No
matter what avenue the relationship takes, it makes you friends.
Venus rules love, beauty and ideals. The Sun is the essence of a
person. And when they occupy the same space, you share a similar
sensibility. This rapport easily translates into conversation, common
interests and like values.
Jupiter also
blesses both of your charts. And that spells fun and laughter.
Lots of it. Jupiter also likes to make merry. You're apt to encourage
each other's appetites for excess. Among the most significant Jupiter
contacts, your boyfriend's Jupiter is conjunct your natal Neptune in the
Seventh House of relationship. Neptune rules fantasy. Jupiter rules
big. Together, Jupiter and Neptune exaggerate. That expansive attitude
easily translates into a tendency to idealize each other. Avoid
putting each other on pedestals. Not that there's anything wrong
with worship. It's just easier to sustain a relationship when you
remember your partner has feet of clay. When gods or goddesses come
crashing down, disappointment fills the air. When humans make mistakes,
it's not such a big deal.
But
that's not all. Mercury also plays a role in your relationship. Mercury
loves to chat about every little thing. And your mental affinity is
an astro-mind-meld. Your thoughts are empathetic. You both love exploring
new ideas. And this intellectual connection is so stimulating that conversations
become a turn-on.
There
is, however, a difficult Mercury contact between your charts, and this
is where the shadows start to reveal themselves. Your boyfriend's Saturn opposes
your Mercury. Saturn is seldom shy about offering its strong opinions.
But the recipient of these admonitions often hears Saturn's voice as
stern and critical. This Saturn-Mercury opposition is likely to make
you self-conscious and hypersensitive to your boyfriend's comments.
What's
more, your boyfriend's birth chart reveals several challenging Mars aspects,
which means he's wrestling with issues of self-assertion and anger.
His natal Mars squares both your Sun and Moon, which means you're
apt to trigger those very same aggression themes. Somewhere along
the road of your relationship, shared laughter switches into heated
disagreement. You'll need to find healthy ways of handling hostility.
Many other Mars contacts between your charts make this relationship
highly physical and filled with energy and passion.
One
more bit: Your boyfriend's Pluto trines your Venus, creating an air of destiny
or fate. Pluto trine Venus also carries a dynamic sexual charge.
Pluto is prone to obsessive-compulsive attraction. Almost as if
you can never quite satisfy your craving for each other. What's
more, when two people share so many astrological contacts, the relationship
often feels familiar even before it begins. Almost as if you're
picking up where you left off.
Whatever
your prospects with this man may be, you just began a new relationship
cycle. The recent Saturn-Jupiter
conjunction occurred exactly on your Moon. This new phase
is filled with emotional promise and opportunity. So take a moment and
reflect on your past relationship patterns. See if this man fits an old
mold, or if he embodies the energy of something new. Saturn and Jupiter
lend support for an entirely new approach to relationships. And that's
the best prospect of all.
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