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Dear Ralfee:

I was born January 10, 1952, in Berwyn, Illinois. My time of birth is 11:26 am CST. The past six years have been a time of great change for me and I feel like a whole new person. The problem is there are so many things that I like to do and need to do and want to do that I get overwhelmed. I was diagnosed with adult ADD a few years ago, and I use lots of tools and strategies for getting through my day. I am currently self-employed in a very creative field, recently divorced and I have two teenage daughters. I love my work, I have a developing spiritual foundation and I'm quite happy, but still often having a difficult time getting things done. I have a million ideas and I love to start projects. But I have to practically chain myself to the sink to finish washing the dishes! I attribute some of my starting-but-not-finishing to my Aries rising. Is there anything in my chart that points to ADD?

Thank you much,


Dear H.C.:

Here's the short answer to your question: Give up your dish anxiety. Free yourself from the shackles of the mundane. And don't waste another moment worrying about those dirty dishes. They simply aren't worth it. Sure, the fastidious cringe at the thought of yesterday's meals molding in the sink. But who cares. When creativity calls, you must answer with eyes, ears, hands and mind free and ready to receive inspiration.

Having made my case for a dish-free world, here's the long answer. I'm not a medical astrologer, so there's no way for me to assess the presence of ADD in a chart. What I can offer is a look at your birth chart with an eye toward understanding how energy flows in your life.

First, let's start by clearing up a misunderstanding about Aries.

Aries is the first sign of the zodiac and embodies the principle of individuation. It's a fire sign. It likes to move. And it's physically curious about following its impulses. This is not a bad characteristic. We all experience this urge somewhere in our chart. At the core, Aries allows us to differentiate from others and know ourselves as separate and distinct.

Aries also loves adventure and challenge. It fuels rugged individualism and the need to cut new pathways and discover new worlds. Aries isn't interested in cultivating the fields of those new locations. The juice for Aries is in the quest.

Because the rising sign reveals how we will actualize our individuality, your Aries Ascendant amplifies the need to explore. You're a pioneer, and you refine your self-definition every time you blaze a new trail.

Unfortunately, the cliché interpretation of Aries focuses on how much Aries hates to complete. While finishing up the details isn't Aries’ strong suit, chaining a vibrant Aries energy to drudgery is damaging to the spirit. Some people are meant to start. Others are meant to finish.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting there isn't value in bringing projects to completion. I'm simply saying forcing ourselves to do things we don't like and then blaming ourselves for not liking those same things is harmful to the heart.

One more point about Aries. Aries has no problem staying with projects that keep their interest. When activities are exciting, stimulating and offer the possibility of innovation, an Aries will do whatever it takes to bring their quest to fruition.

While the limitations of this format won't allow me to go into a detailed analysis of your incredibly complex birth chart, there are several key aspects that shed light on why you might feel scattered.

Mars, your ruling planet and the ruler of Aries, plays an active role in your birth chart. Your natal Mars is in Libra and squares your Sun in Capricorn. This square produces a restless energy that often manifests as the need to hurry.

Mars and the Sun also generate ambition. Your natal Sun is in the Tenth House of Career, boosting the need to achieve and the desire for recognition. Mars is in your Seventh House of relationship. You like working as part of a team. What's more, your Mars in Libra amps-up a longing to work with others. Unfortunately, because squares create friction, you get impatient with partners or co-workers who don't work at your pace.

This frustration could easily turn into disinterest, especially if you also have a communication problem. Aries rising is known for its abrupt way of announcing ideas. This bluntness problem is exacerbated by a Moon-Uranus conjunction in your Third House of Communication. The Moon represents the emotional body. Uranus embodies the need to be unique. While this conjunction translates into a gift for unusual self-expression, the downside is a lack of tact.

My hunch is, early on, you were shamed for the way you expressed your feelings and opinions. Over the years, this shame could have developed into a tendency to bite your tongue. But it's impossible to deny the power of a Moon-Uranus conjunction in the Third House. This conjunction wants to voice its opinions, loud and proud. Holding back this dynamic force causes problems. And those difficulties are apt to manifest as nervous energy, an inability to focus or the inclination to bolt when situations get sticky.

It sounds like you're already working on healthy ways of staying present and focused. You're happy, pleased with yourself and your choices. What's more, you're building a spiritual foundation. As part of your spiritual process, try imagining there's nothing wrong with you or your lack of interest in housework. Embrace your individual rhythm. Dishes come and go. But compassion lasts forever.



Ralfee Finn is the creator of The Aquarium Age, a weekly and monthly astrology column published nationwide and featured at Committed to compassion, knowledge and growth, Ralfee brings the gifts of clarity and common sense to the often confusing waters of metaphysics and new age philosophy.

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