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Dear
Ralfee:
I was born
January 10, 1952, in Berwyn, Illinois. My time of birth is 11:26 am CST.
The past six years have been a time of great change for me and I feel
like a whole new person. The problem is there are so many things that
I like to do and need to do and want to do that I get overwhelmed. I was
diagnosed with adult ADD a few years ago, and I use lots of tools and
strategies for getting through my day. I am currently self-employed in
a very creative field, recently divorced and I have two teenage daughters.
I love my work, I have a developing spiritual foundation and I'm quite
happy, but still often having a difficult time getting things done. I
have a million ideas and I love to start projects. But I have to practically
chain myself to the sink to finish washing the dishes! I attribute some
of my starting-but-not-finishing to my Aries rising. Is there anything
in my chart that points to ADD?
Thank you
much,
H.C.
Dear
H.C.:
Here's the
short answer to your question: Give up your dish anxiety. Free yourself
from the shackles of the mundane. And don't waste another moment worrying
about those dirty dishes. They simply aren't worth it. Sure, the fastidious
cringe at the thought of yesterday's meals molding in the sink. But who
cares. When creativity calls, you must answer with eyes, ears, hands and
mind free and ready to receive inspiration.
Having made
my case for a dish-free world, here's the long answer. I'm not a medical
astrologer, so there's no way for me to assess the presence of ADD in
a chart. What I can offer is a look at your birth chart with an eye toward
understanding how energy flows in your life.
First, let's
start by clearing up a misunderstanding about Aries.
Aries is
the first sign of the zodiac and embodies the principle of individuation.
It's a fire sign. It likes to move. And it's physically curious about
following its impulses. This is not a bad characteristic. We all experience
this urge somewhere in our chart. At the core, Aries allows us to differentiate
from others and know ourselves as separate and distinct.
Aries also
loves adventure and challenge. It fuels rugged individualism and the need
to cut new pathways and discover new worlds. Aries isn't interested in
cultivating the fields of those new locations. The juice for Aries is
in the quest.
Because the
rising sign reveals how we will actualize our individuality, your Aries
Ascendant amplifies the need to explore. You're a pioneer, and you refine
your self-definition every time you blaze a new trail.
Unfortunately,
the cliché interpretation of Aries focuses on how much Aries hates to
complete. While finishing up the details isn't Aries’ strong suit, chaining
a vibrant Aries energy to drudgery is damaging to the spirit. Some people
are meant to start. Others are meant to finish.
Don't get
me wrong, I'm not suggesting there isn't value in bringing projects to
completion. I'm simply saying forcing ourselves to do things we don't
like and then blaming ourselves for not liking those same things is harmful
to the heart.
One more
point about Aries. Aries has no problem staying with projects that keep
their interest. When activities are exciting, stimulating and offer the
possibility of innovation, an Aries will do whatever it takes to bring
their quest to fruition.
While the
limitations of this format won't allow me to go into a detailed analysis
of your incredibly complex birth chart, there are several key
aspects that shed light on why you might feel scattered.
Mars, your
ruling planet and the ruler of Aries, plays an active role in your birth
chart. Your natal Mars is in Libra and squares your Sun in Capricorn.
This square produces a restless energy that often manifests as the need
to hurry.
Mars and
the Sun also generate ambition. Your natal Sun is in the Tenth House of
Career, boosting the need to achieve and the desire for recognition. Mars
is in your Seventh House of relationship. You like working as part of
a team. What's more, your Mars in Libra amps-up a longing to work with
others. Unfortunately, because squares create friction, you get impatient
with partners or co-workers who don't work at your pace.
This frustration
could easily turn into disinterest, especially if you also have a communication
problem. Aries rising is known for its abrupt way of announcing ideas.
This bluntness problem is exacerbated by a Moon-Uranus conjunction in
your Third House of Communication. The Moon represents the emotional body.
Uranus embodies the need to be unique. While this conjunction translates
into a gift for unusual self-expression, the downside is a lack of tact.
My hunch
is, early on, you were shamed for the way you expressed your feelings
and opinions. Over the years, this shame could have developed into a tendency
to bite your tongue. But it's impossible to deny the power of a Moon-Uranus
conjunction in the Third House. This conjunction wants to voice its opinions,
loud and proud. Holding back this dynamic force causes problems. And those
difficulties are apt to manifest as nervous energy, an inability to focus
or the inclination to bolt when situations get sticky.
It sounds
like you're already working on healthy ways of staying present and focused.
You're happy, pleased with yourself and your choices. What's more, you're
building a spiritual foundation. As part of your spiritual process, try
imagining there's nothing wrong with you or your lack of interest in housework.
Embrace your individual rhythm. Dishes come and go. But compassion lasts
forever.
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