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Dear Jilly:

Astrology Horoscope: JeannieAstrology Horoscope: KellyI'm a Gemini woman, born June 7, 1974, at 7:45 pm in Brooklyn, New York, and my girlfriend Kelly is a Scorpio, born Oct. 29, 1974, at 11:55 am in Queens, New York. We've been together for the past four years. About a year and a half ago, we were both going through a series of (separate) personal problems so we were not exactly emotionally available to each other. During this time, I had a (very) brief affair with a Pisces man. At the first strike of infidelity (and I'm just talking about a kiss here), I felt incredibly guilty and ended the situation immediately.

My girlfriend always suspected that something was/had gone on, but I denied everything, fearing her Scorpio wrath, which I had previously seen in action. Three months ago, I came clean, so you can imagine the turmoil. We are still together and have both been working very hard to rebuild trust and repair a broken heart. Just when things begin to look promising, however, she will bring my infidelity up, and I feel like we're back to square one. I dearly love this woman, but I fear that she will never be able to fully forgive me for what I've done, let alone forget about it. Do the aspects in our charts indicate that this relationship is still worth the effort in trying, or are the damages irrevocable?

Thank you, Jeannie

Dear Jeannie:

Well, the good news and the bad news is that I think you two gals will always have a "thing" for each other "in that way." (In layman's terms, just when you've driven each other crazy, you'll wanna get laid—by her, and vice versa—once again, or maybe twice or thrice!) Your Moon (what you desire emotionally) is in deep but sometimes melancholy Capricorn, and it is conjunct (right on top of) Kelly's Capricorn Ascendant. Since the Ascendant (aka rising sign) represents a person's physical presence in the world, I sense that there is a deep emotional/physical connection between you gals. That's the glue that's held you together. And it's a Capricorn type of connection, which can sometimes be harsh. Ruled by Saturn, earthy Capricorn is sexy in a no-nonsense kinda way and is prone to sticking things out even through the torturous parts. I'm not saying that's a good or bad thing—it just is.

Karma, Baby

You two also have a couple of key Node connections. The Nodes in astrology represent past life issues or relationships that have carried over into this life. Your Sun in Gemini is on Kelly's South Node, which suggests you having been a father or authority figure of some sort to Kelly in a past life. In this life, she owes you some respect and better give it, or hello—next lifetime she'll have to pay with high interest! Your North Node is widely conjunct Kelly's Neptune, which suggests that the two of you can provide creative and spiritual inspiration to each other. Putting this together, I gather that, to paraphrase Anne Baxter in the famous ladies’ room scene in All About Eve: "You (two) have much to learn (from each other) and none of it's easy."

Sexual Spark/Day-to-Day Bark

Kelly's Uranus (planet of growth and sometimes abrupt change) in partnership-oriented Libra squares your Mars (sex, passion) in familial Cancer. This suggests that the home you make together (and the love you make!) will always be filled with passion, but disruption. This could be the kind of relationship where if you really work to uncover your unconscious drives of sex and anger—the issues related to those subjects that go deep and are hidden—you could have a life-changing, miraculous partnership. It's a complex one and it won't ever be easy, but it sure won't ever be dull either!

The Future

In terms of what's coming up soon for you two, here's what I see: On January 9, 2001, a major lunar eclipse hit Kelly's Saturn in her Seventh House of partnerships. She has about six months from that date to really work through her long-term relationship issues. She needs to be honest about what her emotional needs are, and find concrete ways to get them met. This eclipse calls for Kelly to put her needs out there in clear ways so they can be satisfied, rather than do the old un-evolved Scorpio thing of seething and then blowing up. You can help her! Concentrate on her long-term goals and help her to figure them out if she's not sure what they are.

As for you, babe, lucky Jupiter hits your Sun (in your house of love) in mid-May, so I have a feeling Ms. Kelly will come around and shower you with extra loving to make sure you keep coming back to her for more. (That's also a great insurance policy on her part to make sure you don't feel tempted to stray again, if that's her fear—and for 99.9 percent of all jealous Scorps, it is!) Get ready for some of the steamiest sex you've had in years!

As for the long-long term, this is something you have a little time to think about. And the only way to know is to see this relationship through and bring up and deal with the anger/jealousy/conflict issues as directly as possible till they are somewhat resolved (though they may always pop up).

In May 2002, Saturn goes over your Sun in your Seventh House of partnership. That will probably be the make or break time, in which you will have to see if the work you've done on this relationship is paying off or not.

Hope this helps. Good luck, girl!



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Jill Dearman is the author of the gay best sellers Queer Astrology For Men and Queer Astrology For Women (St. Martins Griffin/1999). She has been professionally practicing astrology for twelve years and currently writes horoscopes for the national magazines Twist and Girlfriends as well as numerous papers syndicated via Q Syndicate. She has written about subjects from astrology to literature to film and theater in Mademoiselle, Publishers Weekly and HX. An excerpt from her upcoming novel, The Great Bravura, was featured in Best Lesbian Erotica 2000(Cleis Press). She also writes and produces films. The Village Voice called Dearman a "risk surfing playwright" whose work "shocks and rocks." She is a 1999/2000 artist in residence at HERE in New York City.

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