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Dear Jilly:

Astrology Horoscope: DonnaAstrology Horoscope: MattI just recently found StarIQ and your columns, and I had to send my relationship question. I've just started dating someone (only three weeks ago), and I have a really good feeling about things, tempered with a deep-seated fear of letting myself enjoy the wonderful feelings only to get my heart broken later. I'm one of those romantic, sensitive Pisces, and experience makes me wary, though I hold out hope that true love is out there. Anyway, I'd just like to see if the stars say this is a good prospect before I let myself get too involved emotionally. My birth info is March 6, 1969, 6:08 pm in Houston, Texas, and my new beau, Matt, is November 29, 1969 in Anaheim, California (don't know the time). Does it look like this could actually work out, or are my rose-colored glasses working overtime?


Dear Donna:

You certainly are a wild-at-heart, dyed-in-the-wool romantic! Pisceans in general are known to be pretty dreamy, preferring the fantasy world to the harsh, brutal real world. (Can you say Blanch Dubois?) You must be especially starry-eyed because your Pisces Sun is in your Seventh House of partnership. In addition, your Moon (emotional nature) is in supa dupa romantic Libra. Moon in Libra folks tend to really believe in the myth of the "other half" out there. These two signs together make me believe that you are sitting around in a negligee right now, drinking mint juleps and longing to be swept off your feet by a knight in shining armor.

With Jupiter (planet of good luck and excess) right on top of Uranus (planet of growth and sudden change), both in Libra in your First House of self, I see a lot of Libra—ahem—ISSUES here. Your romantic nature may be a blessing and a curse. Though you are never at a loss for lovers, your need for them can often make you feel hungry, even amid a feast. The true challenge for you is to look at yourself in a romantic as well as realistic light and appreciate the beauty and intelligence there, even when no one else's bedroom eyes are gazing at you, baby.

You Are Your Own Sparring Partner

In additon, Venus, the planet of love, is conjunct Saturn, the planet of structure, maturity and discipline. Both are in Libra's opposite sign—Aries, sign of passion and aggression—in your Eighth House of marriage. This indicates that you have a war-like attitude toward long-term relationships. It's all about the chase. Once you "give in" to someone's rough-and-tumble/soft-core porn seduction of you, then you feel like they own you, and again, that feeling of dependence on them starts to rise up in you and make you want to fight for your freedom.

Your last heartbreak may have (in a subtle way) been somewhat self-induced by picking a partner who was rather unavailable. The trick is this, adorable Donna: Can you tell the difference between a man who is available for the first year of fun, courtship, hot loving and romance, and one who is available for a long-term relationship?

Matt: Maybe the Man?

So now let's look at that cool cat Matt and see if he's available for years of love or just hours of sweaty sex. What I like about Matt's chart (particularly for you) is that he's pretty direct and diverse. His Sun and Mercury are conjunct in Sagittarius, which suggests that he's more likely to put his big foot in his mouth than to lie to you.

His Venus (planet of love) is in sexy Scorpio and conjunct his own Neptune (planet of dreams and also Pisces' ruling planet) as well as your Neptune. This troubles me a little because it suggests that he may play into your "love is the drug" fantasy world. However, Matt's Mars sits on your Mercury (communication) in the ahead-of-its-time and cerebral sign of Aquarius. I see this as the hope for you two. Since Aquarius is an unconventional sign that idealizes friendship above all else (but also has a very open and free-spirited approach to love), I wonder if it's possible for you two to spend a long time developing your friendship before you start going steady in your beddy?

Just How Long Is a Long Time?

Well, right now Uranus (Aquarius' ruler) is hovering right over your Mercury and pretty close to Matt's Mars, which probably explains part of the electric charge between you. (You know that feeling when you first are getting to know someone and you have so much to talk about and feel such a chemical spark between you?) But soon Uranus goes retrograde, which means that a change could be in the air that isn't exactly what you are planning, but which ultimately can help you to grow if you look at your own unconscious patterns.

Here's my advice: Wait till sometime between September and December of this year before even considering getting exclusive and serious with Mr. Matt. During that period Uranus will "hit" again, and you'll know whether there's a true long-term anything underneath all that sexy chemistry. And during the next six months get a new pair of prescription glasses for yourself!

Good Luck!



Send relationship questions to Jill at Please include the words "Bedroom Astrology" in the subject line.



Jill Dearman is the author of the gay best sellers Queer Astrology For Men and Queer Astrology For Women (St. Martins Griffin/1999). She has been professionally practicing astrology for twelve years and currently writes horoscopes for the national magazines Twist and Girlfriends as well as numerous papers syndicated via Q Syndicate. She has written about subjects from astrology to literature to film and theater in Mademoiselle, Publishers Weekly and HX. An excerpt from her upcoming novel, The Great Bravura, was featured in Best Lesbian Erotica 2000(Cleis Press). She also writes and produces films. The Village Voice called Dearman a "risk surfing playwright" whose work "shocks and rocks." She is a 1999/2000 artist in residence at HERE in New York City.

Jill is also the author of LoveCycles, an email-delivered guide to love and relationships based on individual birth data, available in the Shop@StarIQ.

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