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Dear Jilly:

Astrology Horoscope: DaraAstrology Horoscope: JoeyI love your column on StarIQ. Here is my burning relationship question. I regret breaking up with my boyfriend last summer. But I felt he had some growing up to do and I simply got frustrated with him. I also found out he was having some sort of Internet "affair," which was the last straw. I NEVER thought he'd do this to me. I have loved this man since the day I met him nine years ago, and I still love him today. Will we ever get back together? He says he is waiting for me to move, then he asks why I left him and his voice cracks. Is he licking his Leo wounds? I have forgiven him and want him back.

I was born April 14, 1966, at 2:00 pm in Chicago. Joey was born August 2, 1969, at 2:30 pm in Berwyn, Illinois.



Dear Dara:

Fire signs (Aries like you, Leos like Joey and Sagittarians like Brad Pitt) have a certain innocence about them. No matter how loud your bark is and how rough your bite in the moment, you fire folks find it virtually impossible to stay mad, or believe that there really are bad people in the world. I say all this as a great compliment. Sure, you get duped sometimes, but at least you follow your hearts.

That's why I really need to encourage you (and Joey) to follow your hearts, get your butts in gear and get back together! Yes, Leos can be particularly proud, and you Aries are fiercely proud of your independence, so I'm sure pride is getting in the way of a great lifelong love affair.

Ok, here's the nitty gritty: Your Jupiter (planet of good luck) sits right on Joey's Venus (planet of love) in Gemini, the sign of the twins. There is something generous and giving about your connection, and quite "twin like." You may feel like partners in crime a lot of the time (both Jupiter and the sign Gemini can be quite mischievous). Whatever you decide to do, it's definitely best to always be a good sport in this relationship.

His Mind Needs Stimulation

Yeah, yeah, all well and good, but I dig that your man dissed you (with his typing fingers if not with his heart or his hips) and you're probably wondering why, and if he'll do it again. So let's take a look. Joey's Venus in Gemini indicates that he needs a lot of mental stimulation in order to remain satisfied in his love relationship. Talk, or "chat" (which may have drawn him to the Net) goes a long way with him. But he's not just some shallow lad who needs a lot of "yadda, yadda, yadda" with no commitment. His Venus is in the Eighth House, the house of long-term commitment. But in order for him to make good on his true desire to be a faithful long-term lover, he does have to receive high doses of daily intellectual, verbal and flirty stimulation. The Eighth House is very transformative, and I can't help but think that if you patch things up it might be healing for you to try a little sexy email cyber chat with Joey to keep the wordy heat flowing hot.

He Canít Read Your Mind

Looking at your chart, babe, I can't help but notice that your romantic style is quite different from Joey's. Even though you have Sun and Mars in Aries, your love nature is much more Pisces. The sign of the fishes sits on your Descendant (aka the doorway to the Seventh House of partnership), plus you have Venus, Chiron and Saturn in Pisces in your Seventh House, and Mercury in Pisces in your Eighth House of commitment.

This suggests that you have an unconscious desire for a more Piscean love experience, which entails floating in a dream-like bubble with your man, not having to articulate your needs, but expecting him to sense them. And if he doesn't, that's ok too (by your Piscean standards) because you can just retreat into a fantasy world. Obviously, this can make for trouble! Add to the mix the fact that your Neptune (the fantasy/illusion planet that rules Pisces) sits EXACTLY on Joey's Ascendant (persona, physical self). He is the perfect match for your fantasy game.

In order to make the intense subconscious conversations between you two a little more constructive rather than destructive, here's my advice: Articulate your desires and needs. Go over the top in putting them into words. That's the only way to defend against the potentially toxic Pisces/Neptune "mind reading" b.s. that I sense between you two. And guess what? Your pal Joey loves to talk and get email, so the more you articulate the more you will turn him on, and protect yourself from your own (emotionally) masochistic instincts!

Reuniting: Will It Feel So Good?

I think this summer could really be a summer of love for you two crazy kids. In July, lucky Jupiter transits Joey's Venus in his marriage house so I really think he'll welcome the opportunity to get serious, and seriously sexy with you in a whole new and exciting way. Also, in July, Jupiter will stop squaring (making a difficult aspect) your love planets and instead will begin to trine Venus (make a harmonious aspect). Instead of feeling like you have to fight your nature, you can find the most constructive way to express your deepest love nature. Good luck!

Your StarIQ Advisor,

Jill Dearman

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Jill Dearman is the author of the gay best sellers Queer Astrology For Men and Queer Astrology For Women (St. Martins Griffin/1999). She has been professionally practicing astrology for twelve years and currently writes horoscopes for the national magazines Twist and Girlfriends as well as numerous papers syndicated via Q Syndicate. She has written about subjects from astrology to literature to film and theater in Mademoiselle, Publishers Weekly and HX. An excerpt from her upcoming novel, The Great Bravura, was featured in Best Lesbian Erotica 2000(Cleis Press). She also writes and produces films. The Village Voice called Dearman a "risk surfing playwright" whose work "shocks and rocks." She is a 1999/2000 artist in residence at HERE in New York City.

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