Uranus and Pluto are Throwing a Cybersex Party
Why is it
so hard nowadays to meet someone? Are we avoiding the rocky road of dates,
flowers and candlelit dinners—those first tentative steps into real intimacy
and trust? Maybe we’re too busy, or it’s too expensive or too time-consuming,
or perhaps we’re afraid to be really open, natural and honest for fear
of rejection (or at worst, litigation). Uranus and Neptune in
Aquarius brought us the Internet and the freedom to explore relationships and even
pornography in a way we’ve never been able to before. These planets give
us the three big “As” of the net—anonymity, accessibility and affordability
services have boomed in the last couple of years. It’s safe, it’s clean,
it’s Saran wrapped. We can access virtual dating sites and transform ourselves
at the touch of a key into Baywatch Babe or Superhunk without going under
the plastic surgeon’s knife. We can have multiple partners, in multiple
bodies, so we’re no longer talking serial monogamy here, but parallel
We can meet,
learn each other’s deepest, darkest secrets, fall in love and decide to
marry—and still not know if our beloved has body odor. In the “real world,”
we sense within minutes of a first meeting if someone “clicks” with us.
We use the earthy, sensual immediacy of pheromones—humans are still in
the Jurassic when it comes to sex. But in cyberspace, we’re blind, gagged
and bound. How do we find our way? Just what does happen on a cyberdate?
We can’t dance or kiss, so we go into chat rooms and talk, which leads
to a little private whispered conversation that no one else can hear.
Which leads to more racy talk and, voila—welcome to cybersex.
Engenders Experimentation: Uranus
the Net potential for androgyny, gender-swapping and swift, impersonal
connections. In this atmosphere, we can safely experiment with our male
and female sides. Chat rooms are full of men masquerading as women as
they explore how it feels to be courted, to be “hit on” and to have someone
fall in love with them. It’s as close as they can get without risk to
living out their feminine side, instead of projecting it onto the women
in their lives.
feel uncertain about standing up for themselves in real life—tackling
the boss for a raise or telling their partner what they really want—can
try out their masculine side in the chat rooms without real-life repercussions.
The Net can be valuable “training wheels” as we explore untapped aspects
Own Blue Movies: Neptune
over the Net, we still need to see who we’re falling in love with. Who
are we waving our pink bits at? And are they responding as we want them
to? Web cameras (Neptune’s magic bullet) come to our rescue. Before they
came along, there was an upsurge worldwide in the ability to type one
handed. Now we know what our lover looks like when he or she is sexually
aroused. It’s our own private blue movie, and we’re the stars, scriptwriters
and directors, hoping to win the Oscar in the love lottery.
can be a price, because Neptune in Aquarius, the magician in this
techno-laboratory, can brew up fantasy, illusion and self-deception. And don’t
forget, web cams can be linked to more than one computer, so there’s a
potential for wild group (Aquarius) cybersex without ever having to change
the sheets or get out the cheese dip. Web cams might take us out of the
humdrum, but our reality check can bounce.
in the Flesh: Pluto
When it comes
to cybersex, Neptune and Uranus in Aquarius, those masters of delusion
and instability, are leading the pack in hunting down a mate. And it’s
all happening in our minds. Can the heart survive in this ethereal world
of the head? If we make a bond through cybersex, we still want it in the
flesh, and sex—even cybersex—is Pluto’s domain.
now in Sagittarius, where it surfs the World Wide Web, not only wiping
out the barriers of culture and distance, but jumping society’s moral
fences, tempting us to take a walk on the wild side. Let’s not forget
that Pluto is the God of the Underworld—and what flourishes best in the
underbelly of the Internet is hardcore porn, and the serious amounts of
money that it brings in (porn sites are the only ones consistently turning
Sagittarius is huge, fast and overwhelming, and the entire online world
can now access vast numbers of potential partners, creating unending chances
to experiment with taboo sexuality, and we can do it all now. We can reinvent
ourselves, explore multiple personalities—even morph onscreen into new
bodies. The deep upheaval of our lives—as the unconscious, sometimes destructive
urges bulldoze everything that stands in the way of our personal freedom—are
how Pluto in Sagittarius can transform us. So we get on the plane, fly
halfway across the globe to marry someone we have left our partners and
children for…and there’s no one at the airport in Vladivostok when we
aspects of cybersex are pure Pluto—sexual power, potential for victimization
and loss of control. Yet a catharsis can come from exposing our deep yearnings
and worst fears about ourselves to another, who, miraculously, does the
same, and heals us by accepting us as we are. Under stress, when we’re
ready to escape, we can be reborn through cybersex, again and again. These
days, we don’t have to worry anymore about the pixies leading us down
the garden path. It’s the pixels on our screens that are the problem
now. But there’s always a golden parachute with cybersex. If that romance
didn’t pan out—well, there are millions more electronic fish in this ocean.