a Gemini woman, born June 7, 1974, at 7:45 pm in Brooklyn, New York, and
my girlfriend Kelly is a Scorpio, born Oct. 29, 1974, at 11:55 am in Queens,
New York. We've been together for the past four years. About a year and
a half ago, we were both going through a series of (separate) personal
problems so we were not exactly emotionally available to each other. During
this time, I had a (very) brief affair with a Pisces man. At the first
strike of infidelity (and I'm just talking about a kiss here), I felt
incredibly guilty and ended the situation immediately.
always suspected that something was/had gone on, but I denied everything,
fearing her Scorpio wrath, which I had previously seen in action. Three
months ago, I came clean, so you can imagine the turmoil. We are still
together and have both been working very hard to rebuild trust and repair
a broken heart. Just when things begin to look promising, however, she
will bring my infidelity up, and I feel like we're back to square one.
I dearly love this woman, but I fear that she will never be able to fully
forgive me for what I've done, let alone forget about it. Do the
aspects in our charts indicate that this relationship is still worth the effort
in trying, or are the damages irrevocable?
good news and the bad news is that I think you two gals will always have
a "thing" for each other "in that way." (In layman's
terms, just when you've driven each other crazy, you'll wanna get laid—by
her, and vice versa—once again, or maybe twice or thrice!) Your Moon (what
you desire emotionally) is in deep but sometimes melancholy Capricorn,
and it is conjunct (right on top of) Kelly's Capricorn Ascendant. Since
the Ascendant (aka rising sign) represents a person's physical presence
in the world, I sense that there is a deep emotional/physical connection
between you gals. That's the glue that's held you together. And it's a
Capricorn type of connection, which can sometimes be harsh. Ruled by Saturn,
earthy Capricorn is sexy in a no-nonsense kinda way and is prone to sticking
things out even through the torturous parts. I'm not saying that's a good
or bad thing—it just is.
You two also
have a couple of key Node connections. The Nodes in astrology represent
past life issues or relationships that have carried over into this life.
Your Sun in Gemini is on Kelly's South Node, which suggests you having
been a father or authority figure of some sort to Kelly in a past life.
In this life, she owes you some respect and better give it, or hello—next
lifetime she'll have to pay with high interest! Your North Node is widely conjunct
Kelly's Neptune, which suggests that the two of you can provide creative
and spiritual inspiration to each other. Putting this together, I gather
that, to paraphrase Anne Baxter in the famous ladies’ room scene in All
About Eve: "You (two) have much to learn (from each other)
and none of it's easy."
Uranus (planet of growth and sometimes abrupt change) in partnership-oriented
Libra squares your Mars (sex, passion) in familial Cancer. This suggests
that the home you make together (and the love you make!) will always be
filled with passion, but disruption. This could be the kind of relationship
where if you really work to uncover your unconscious drives of sex and
anger—the issues related to those subjects that go deep and are hidden—you
could have a life-changing, miraculous partnership. It's a complex one
and it won't ever be easy, but it sure won't ever be dull either!
of what's coming up soon for you two, here's what I see: On January 9,
2001, a major lunar eclipse hit Kelly's Saturn in her Seventh House of
partnerships. She has about six months from that date to really work through
her long-term relationship issues. She needs to be honest about what her
emotional needs are, and find concrete ways to get them met. This eclipse
calls for Kelly to put her needs out there in clear ways so they can be
satisfied, rather than do the old un-evolved Scorpio thing of seething
and then blowing up. You can help her! Concentrate on her long-term goals
and help her to figure them out if she's not sure what they are.
As for you,
babe, lucky Jupiter hits your Sun (in your house of love) in mid-May,
so I have a feeling Ms. Kelly will come around and shower you with extra
loving to make sure you keep coming back to her for more. (That's also
a great insurance policy on her part to make sure you don't feel tempted
to stray again, if that's her fear—and for 99.9 percent of all jealous
Scorps, it is!) Get ready for some of the steamiest sex you've had in
As for the
long-long term, this is something you have a little time to think about.
And the only way to know is to see this relationship through and bring
up and deal with the anger/jealousy/conflict issues as directly as possible
till they are somewhat resolved (though they may always pop up).
In May 2002,
Saturn goes over your Sun in your Seventh House of partnership. That will
probably be the make or break time, in which you will have to see if the
work you've done on this relationship is paying off or not.
helps. Good luck, girl!
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Astrology" in the subject line.